Apologies and a Few Things to Remember

Wednesday, 22 October 2014


Firstly, I need to start with an apology. Sorry I haven't blogged at all this last week, I had a family bereavement and didn't feel in the right place to be posting any blog posts. However, I had been thinking about writing this post for a while and this past week, I have had a lot of thinking time and time to reflect. I've had lots of changes in my life over these past few months; graduating from university, moving back home, getting a new job, starting a masters degree, getting into a new relationship, to name but a few. Whilst a lot of people don't like change, it's something I find particularly hard to deal with. Also, it's the first time in my life where I don't have a natural progression onto the next stage of my life, it's always been simple; from finishing school, to going to sixth form and then onto university, but now I have no natural pathway. I'm at university 3 days a week which involves an hour and 15 minute drive each way and then work the other 2 days with the weekends filled with seeing my boyfriend or a catch up with friends. Lately, it has all become a bit too much for me, have I made the right decision to do a masters degree? Am I going to have enough time to get all the work done? Will I cope with all the work? What will I do once I finish the masters? However, it has made me realise some really important points that can apply to lots of people in lots of different situations and so, I thought I would share them with you:

1./It's okay to not be okay
I'm often referred to as 'the one who is always happy' and I like that, I like to be an optimist and bring happiness into people's lives, however, it means that when I'm struggling with something, I don't like to show how I feel because I don't like the idea of letting people down and not being 'the happy one'. However, I've come to realise that this isn't a healthy way of thinking and that everyone has their 'down days' and you just have to go with it until you feel better again. 

2./Having 'me' time is important
Lately, I've been so busy as I explained earlier and so, I rarely get time to chill. However, I've noticed how much better I've felt after a lazy evening, catching up with TV and drinking a mug of green tea, socialising can be exhausting and as much as I love it, we all need that 'down time'. 

3./Things have a habit of working out for the best
This is a famous quote from my mum, whenever I'm going through a bad patch she always reminds me of this. It kind of ties in with a moto that I really believe in which is that 'everything happens for a reason'. There's been moments in my life where I have seen no way of things getting better or working out well, but every time, I've seen at a later date how much better things are.

4./You can't control the future so there's no point worrying about it
This is one that I am having to constantly remind myself of at the moment. I am a massive worrier in any case, but lately I have been particularly worrying about the future as I am so unsure about what I want to do. Lots of my friends have their lives sorted, are in comfortable jobs beginning their careers and I'm spending £7000 on a course that I may not even use. However, as I have learnt before in the past, you can't dictate what happens in the future and even if you do plan for it, you never know what might happen and your plans could change dramatically in any case.

5./Be yourself and nothing less
Sometimes we're so hung up on impressing people and being the best, that we lose sight of who we really are. I'm so worried that I'm not clever enough for this masters or that I'm not good enough at my job that I sometimes forget who I am and what I've achieved. It's important to remember how well you've done to get to where you are today and that you wouldn't have done that without being the person that you are. Also, if other people don't think you're good enough, that's their problem not yours. 

So these are a few points that I've been trying to convince myself of these past couple of weeks. I know it's a slightly different post to what I normally write and I am sorry for rambling, but I hope it's been of help to at least a few people. Let me know what you think of this style of post in the comments and let me know if you have any tips to add.



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