Living with a Partner | 5 things I've learnt

Monday, 3 July 2017


As some of you may know, I moved in with my boyfriend, Émil for the first time 6 months ago. I'd moved out before when I went to university, but moving in with a partner is totally different to living with friends. I've definitely learnt a lot over the past few months which I thought I'd share.

1./Establish your routines
I’m a great lover of routine. I know that’s boring, but it’s true. I had a strict morning routine when I lived at home, so I wasn’t sure how I’d adjust when I moved in with Émil, especially as we only have one shower and need to leave the flat at a similar time. However, we’ve soon fallen into a routine that works for both of us. I always get up first, shower and start getting ready for work, by this time, Émil wakes up and starts getting ready for the day. We always have breakfast together which is nice as we chat about our days ahead. In the evenings, Émil gets in before me and so he may start dinner or do a few chores and then I get home to cook the rest of dinner before eating together and then settling down in front of the TV.

2./Establish your roles
When we first moved in, I wanted us to share the chores because I didn’t think it was fair for one person to be left to do it all. We’ve soon fallen into a routine of who does what and whilst these roles aren’t set in stone, it does ensure we get everything done when it needs to.

3./Give each other space
Don’t get me wrong, I love my boyfriend, but sometimes you just need that time to yourself. Émil enjoys gaming and I would hate for him to feel like he couldn’t game because of me. Therefore, he’ll often play on his PS4 in the evening, whilst I catch up on trashy TV that I know he won’t enjoy. Whilst we love spending time together, it’s important we don’t get under each other’s feet as that doesn't make for a happy relationship.

4./Be adaptable
This is definitely one I’ve had to learn. I’m quite stuck in my ways and like things done a certain way. However, for some things, Émil had better or different ways of doing things and I had to adapt my ways and learn that change is okay! Similarly, Émil I’m sure will agree, has adapted to certain things I do. Everyone has different ways of doing things and I think it's important to accept that and be flexible to find a balance that works for both of you.

5./Be honest with each other
All too often, problems can arise from bottling up emotions and not talking about how you feel. I think a key to a successful living arrangement with your partner is to ensure you’re open and honest about anything and everything so you can iron out problems before they escalate. Émil and I have quite an open relationship and ensure we're always honest with each other and this has made living with Émil really easy and enjoyable.

So they're probably the top things I've learnt living with my partner over the past 6 months and hope they're helpful for anyone looking to move out with their partner. Have you recently moved in with the a partner? I'd love to know your tips!



8 comments :

  1. This is great advice! My boyfriend and I have been together almost 3 years and plan on moving in together at some point. I'll be sure to keep this advice in mind!

    Amanda | thebeautypanda.com

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    1. Aww thank you very much! hope everything goes well when you move in together, it's such a lovely feeling! Thanks for reading xx

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  2. Me and my partner are planning to move in together as soon as we can so these tips have been super helpful as we have just as many differences as similarities!
    Alice Xx
    blacktulipbeauty.wordpress.com

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    1. Eeek that's so exciting! I know what you mean, it's the same for me and my boyfriend. It's all worth it in the end though. Good luck with your move! Thanks for reading xx

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  3. I've recently moved in with my boyfriend and I'm learning the exact same things! It's definitely a big change, but a good one! Loved this post xx

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    1. Aww thank you so much! Yesss lots of learning curves, but it's all fun. Thanks so much for reading xx

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  4. I've been living with my boyfriend for nearly 2,5 years and we're still trying to establish some things :D he loves gaming and at first I didn't understand it, but now I'm as much as a gamer (or a game-watcher, because my reactions aren't as quick and I panic when the music gets intense). I love watching dramas and reality TV, which he hates, or shall I say hated, because he got so much into Love Island and Ex on the Beach it surprised me. I think we sort of acquired each other's habits at some point and it's so much fun, it's like living with your best friend. I wouldn't change it for the world.

    Julia xx
    theglassofclass.com

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    1. This is all so true! I know what you mean about acquiring each other's habits, I think we have too, but as you say it's so much fun! I love it! Thanks so much for reading (: xx

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